Every single day of my engagement, I called my fiancé and told him I didn’t think I could marry him. There was so many things that could go wrong. Did I really love him enough? Time and all eternity was such a LONG time and a huge commitment. I was full of fear.
The morning of our wedding I actually called him and told him I wasn’t coming.
That fear took over my entire engagement. I didn’t enjoy any thing about it. I didn’t even enjoy my wedding day. Yes, you heard that right, I did have a wedding day. I actually went through with it.
Why? If I was so afraid and felt so much fear, why did I get married? Because there was this small voice inside of me that whispered, “this is the perfect relationship for you. Your life is going to be beautiful.”
Heather Rackham Coaching started with my desire to help women who were preparing for marriage, to make the commitment with a lot more confidence then I did. I wanted women to have tools to create the marriage of their dreams. I was a pre-marriage coach. And I loved it.
But in time, I was approached by a women who was getting married, not for the first, but the second time. She had been married before and it didn’t turn out how she had hoped.
She desperately needed help to over come her fear.
There was so much pain from her past and it created a lot of anxiousness about the future. She felt good about getting married the first time, why didn’t it work out? How could she trust her instincts again? Could she really open her heart up to someone else? Could she really love his children like she loved her own? Could she share finances again after being financially independent. Her list of fears was enormous. She wanted to have love and connection in her life again, but could she really ever trust someone again?
I knew I could help. I knew I had tools that could change her life. I knew I could teach her how to create the future she wanted and know that she could keep herself emotionally safe, all the time, no matter what.
And so, Heather Rackham Coaching made a shift. I became The Second Marriage Coach and I have never looked back.
As a member of the Church Of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I coach with Christ-like values. Not all of my clients are members of my church but those that are, find so much peace in knowing that I understand their perspective and background.
Everyone on this earth deserves love and connection in this life. I believe that is why we are here. I teach all the tools you need to leave fear and anxiety behind and start living and loving.