Self-Confidence Part 2

A few years ago, I was sitting in our raft at the top of a rapid on the Salmon River.

My son and I were arguing over who was going to take the lead and man the ores through the rapid. Neither one of us wanted to. We were both nervous and a bit afraid.

We decided to run it together. He sat across from me and put his hands on the oars and together we rowed through the rapid. It is scary and exhilerating all at the same time.

I learned a lot from this moment in time but the one I want to focus on is the fear I felt at the top of the rapid.

Fear is an emotion that I don’t like to feel. Most of us don’t. As I looked downriver at this rapid, it wasn’t white water that I feared.

I feared my fear.

I was afraid of feeling afraid.

Part of self-confidence is learning that the worst thing that can happen is an emotion. Emotions are what make life bad when it’s bad.

We spend too much time in self-doubt because we don’t know that we can handle anything that comes our way.

Why? Because we think it is the circumstance that we have to get through. But reality is we only have to endure the feeling we feel while we are doing it.

When we are willing to experience any emotion and we know it’s the worst that can happen, we will be flooded with self confidence.

That is when we put our hands on the oars, experience a “let’s do this” attitude and row through the white water.

At the bottom of that rapid I felt elation!

I felt excitement.

I felt confident.

What are you afraid to experience? Are you afraid of what the future may hold in a second marriage? Are you afraid of how you will feel when your stepchildren say something unkind? Are you afraid of how you will react when your ex-husband doesn’t keep his word? Remind yourself, you are only afraid of the emotion.

That’s it!

You can handle anything!


Did you miss Self-Confidence Part 1? Read it here.

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