Body Confidence or Self-Confidence?
Friend: “I don’t know how to help my daughter. She is just content not being social. She seems to just want to be alone.”
Me: “If she truly just enjoys being alone, then you don’t need to help her. And that may genuinely be the case. But if she is wanting to be alone because she is feeling insecure about herself, then that is a different story.”
Friend: “She doesn’t seem insecure. She doesn’t ever act like she wants to hide her body. She wears cute clothes and loves to wear her bikini’s.”
Me: “There is a difference between body-confidence and self-confidence.”
This is was such an interesting conversation. We just lump “confidence” into one blanket statement. I always have. But pondering this conversation helped me see the need to make a very clear distinction between the two.
Body confidence is how a person feels about the way they look. When we have body confidence we accept, and are happy with how we look and what our bodies can do.
Self-confidence is knowing everything about ourselves, our personal strengths and weaknesses and loving ourselves anyway. It is being secure in yourself and your abilities. It is your ability to trust yourself, knowing that you can experience any emotion (like failure or humiliation) without being harmed emotionally.
I wanted to be very clear on the separation of these two differences in confidence today because I am going to focus on self-confidence this month and I don’t want anyone to confuse body confidence and self-confidence as I move forward.
Self-confidence is so integral to being able to become who you want to become. I can’t wait to share all my good stuff with you during November.
Until next time, I’d love to hear your thoughts as you ponder the difference and the importance of recognizing that there is a difference. Comment below!!
If you want body confidence help, check out these past blog posts on body image.