No One Is Attractive
I remember watching the Twilight movies way back when.
If you don’t know what those movies are, it was a series of movies based on novels about a love triangle between a human girl, a vampire and a werewolf. Bizarre I know, but it seemed to catch on like wildfire.
I remember being so disappointed in the way Edward (the vampire) looked in the movie. When I had read the book, I had imagined him completely different. As I read about him, I had created someone who was my ideal. This thin, soft, breakable,
Then when Jacob, the werewolf, came into the picture, I was shocked because, in my mind, he was more of what my ideal was, yet in the book, I had not
It begged the question, what is attraction anyway? If there was one definition of attractive, there would have been no team Edward or team Jacob.
“I’m just so attracted to him” is stated like we have no choice. Its like attraction just happens; like how someone looks just draws us to them and we have no control whether we are attracted or not. If this were true, everyone would be attracted to the same person.
This is a false.
I value hard work, adventure, strength, resilience, safety and security. When I look at my husband, the things I find most physically attractive are the things that represent those values.
He is built strong. He has hands that are always dirty from work, He has broad shoulders that seem to be there for my protection and comfort. He
I have had people say, “I am just not attracted to him anymore” like their spouse just stopped being attractive
I tell them that it is ok to think this BUT they need to be honest with
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