People Pleasing Disease
Warning: Only read on if your ready for some tough love in a short and blunt manner.
According to Webster Dictionary, a people pleaser is someone that pleases or wants to please people.
Sounds so nice doesn’t it. Sounds so noble.
I want to bust this nice and noble thought wide open.
People pleasers are liars. HARSH!
You see, people pleasers tell people what they want to hear and do what they want you to do in order to get them to like you or feel comfortable around you.
This is not kindness. This is manipulation.
Any time you do or say something so that you can get people to do what you want them to do (even if it seems nice like helping them to like you or feel comfortable around you), you are trying to control their behavior. That is manipulation.
Is this you? Pay attention and see if you have any people pleasing tendencies. Why? What is your motive? Be curious and observe.