The best wedding gift you can give yourself
This is the Final question in my blog series 10 questions you must ask your fiancé before your get married.
To recap, I selected these questions for the hundreds floating around Pinterest and put my own spin on them.
Question #10: Which childhood experiences influence your behavior and attitude the most?
I don’t know about you, but getting married caused me to reflect on my childhood a lot. It seemed like I was closing that chapter as I prepared to leave my parents house.
I had gone away to college and spent time away from home, but getting married just felt like the end of an era.
I had a wonderful childhood, filled with amazing memories. It was filled with love from my parents and siblings, family traditions, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins.
But like most people, it was not void of some “learning experiences”.
You know what I”m talking about. The hardships and trials. Some of them self inflicted and other’s completely out of my control.
Some things are very painful and influence our thoughts and behaviors.
As humans we have a tendency to allow our past to continue to cause us pain…even though it is just that…our past!
Our past can not cause us pain!
It does not have the ability to come back and hurt us.
Our past only exists in our minds.
It is only our thoughts about it that remain.
It is only our thoughts about the past that cause us pain.
Give yourself the best wedding gift you can possibly give yourself…let go of the thoughts that cause you pain from your past. Embrace your past. Recognize that it is part of what made you who you are!
Think of an experience or person from your past that causes you pain.
You actually get to choose what you tell your brain about it. You don’t think you do. You think these thoughts just happen. But they don’t. Your brain only knows what you tell it.
I choose to believe that my past was perfect for me! It was exactly what I needed to become the person I am today.
That thought brings peace instead of hurt or pain.
Moving forward in my life with peace about my past gives me so much freedom to continue to create the perfect life and marriage for me.